How do you motivate someone who just doesn’t seem to care?

It’s one of the most frustrating challenges leaders face — when effort after effort to inspire, coach, and clarify expectations seems to go nowhere.

I’ve been there too, pulling my hair out, wondering why someone wouldn’t change.

Through experience (and a lot of trial and error), I realized something critical: motivation isn’t one-size-fits-all. What energizes one person can leave another completely unmoved.

 

Two Key Motivators

A concept called white hat vs. black hat motivation, from the Octalysis Framework by Yu-kai Chou, helped me rethink my approach.

White hat motivations — like purpose, learning, and autonomy — pull people forward with fulfillment and meaning.

Black hat motivations — like fear of loss, pressure, and anxiety — push people their avoidance of pain.

 

The Leader's role

As leaders, our role isn’t to force motivation but to understand what truly drives each person.

Some are energized by growth and mastery.

Others respond when fears and pressures are addressed with empathy.

Every person has a story, and in it are clues to what drives them. When you know their story, you can better understand their core motivations.

 

Managing Motivations

For those with tight budgets, there’s good news!

You don’t need big rewards to motivate people. Just start by seeing what matters to them.

Start by getting curious.

What might their white hat motivators be? What black hat pressures are weighing on them?

Then, have a conversation — not to fix, but to listen.

Motivation begins with understanding.

And leadership begins with asking the right questions.


Looking to strengthen your team? 

Now that you’ve learned more about motivation, don’t ignore another element — effectiveness!

If you’re not sure the next steps on how to strengthen your team effectiveness, contact us, and let’s unpack your challenges.

Angela Lin Yee

This article was written by Angela Lin Yee, Organizational effectiveness consultant and founder of Terraform Leadership Consulting.

Business and nonprofit leaders want to increase their results and crush their goals, but don’t always know the best next step to take.

In my blog, I share principles and tips so that leaders can develop thriving, productive, and effective organizations.

https://www.terraformleader.com
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